Wednesday, August 30, 2006

Longevity & genes

Live Long? Die Young? Answer Isn’t Just in Genes

Courtesy of Josephine Tesauro

Josephine Tesauro, active and healthy at 92, is part of a study trying to determine why some people age better than others, even when they are closely related.


Published: August 31, 2006

Josephine Tesauro never thought she would live so long. At 92, she is straight backed, firm jawed and vibrantly healthy, living alone in an immaculate brick ranch house high on a hill near McKeesport, a Pittsburgh suburb. She works part time in a hospital gift shop and drives her 1995 white Oldsmobile Cutlass Ciera to meetings of her four bridge groups, to church and to the grocery store. She has outlived her husband, who died nine years ago, when he was 84. She has outlived her friends, and she has outlived three of her six brothers.

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The New Age

This is the second article in a series looking at the science of aging. Other articles will explore body image and frailty and who ages well and why. The articles will remain online at nytimes.com/aging.

A video profile of 92-year-old Josephine Tesauro and how her genes might explain her longevity is online at nytimes.com/health.

Josephine Tesauro as a teenager with her twin, who has not fared as well.

Fabrizio Costantini for The New YorkTimes

Jim Lyons, age 75 from Lake Odessa, MI., has many relatives who died at early ages, and never expected to live beyond his 50's.

Jeff Swensen for The New York Times

Josephine Tesauro, 93, maintains a tight schedule and a witty sense of humor.

Mrs. Tesauro does, however, have a living sister, an identical twin. But she and her twin are not so identical anymore. Her sister is incontinent, she has had a hip replacement, and she has a degenerative disorder that destroyed most of her vision. She also has dementia. “She just does not comprehend,” Mrs. Tesauro says.

Even researchers who study aging are fascinated by such stories. How could it be that two people with the same genes, growing up in the same family, living all their lives in the same place, could age so differently?

The scientific view of what determines a life span or how a person ages has swung back and forth. First, a couple of decades ago, the emphasis was on environment, eating right, exercising, getting good medical care. Then the view switched to genes, the idea that you either inherit the right combination of genes that will let you eat fatty steaks and smoke cigars and live to be 100 or you do not. And the notion has stuck, so that these days, many people point to an ancestor or two who lived a long life and assume they have a genetic gift for longevity.

But recent studies find that genes may not be so important in determining how long someone will live and whether a person will get some diseases — except, perhaps, in some exceptionally long-lived families. That means it is generally impossible to predict how long a person will live based on how long the person’s relatives lived.

Life spans, says James W. Vaupel, who directs the Laboratory of Survival and Longevity at the Max Planck Institute for Demographic Research in Rostock, Germany, are nothing like a trait like height, which is strongly inherited.

“How tall your parents are compared to the average height explains 80 to 90 percent of how tall you are compared to the average person,” Dr. Vaupel said. But “only 3 percent of how long you live compared to the average person can be explained by how long your parents lived.”

“You really learn very little about your own life span from your parents’ life spans,” Dr. Vaupel said. “That’s what the evidence shows. Even twins, identical twins, die at different times.” On average, he said, more than 10 years apart.

The likely reason is that life span is determined by such a complex mix of events that there is no accurate predicting for individuals. The factors include genetic predispositions, disease, nutrition, a woman’s health during pregnancy, subtle injuries and accidents and simply chance events, like a randomly occurring mutation in a gene of a cell that ultimately leads to cancer.

The result is that old people can appear to be struck down for many reasons, or for what looks like almost no reason at all, just chance. Some may be more vulnerable than others, and over all, it is clear that the most fragile are likely to die first. But there are still those among the fragile who somehow live on and on. And there are seemingly healthy people who die suddenly.

Some diseases, like early onset Alzheimer’s and early onset heart disease, are more linked to family histories than others, like most cancers and Parkinson’s disease. But predisposition is not a guarantee that an individual will develop the disease. Most, in fact, do not get the disease they are predisposed to. And even getting the disease does not mean a person will die of it.

There are, of course, some valid generalizations. On average, for example, obese men who smoke will die sooner than women who are thin and active and never get near a cigarette. But for individuals, there is no telling who will get what when or who will succumb quickly and who will linger.

“We are pretty good at predicting on a group level,” said Dr. Kaare Christensen, a professor of epidemiology at the University of Southern Denmark. “But we are really bad on the individual level.”

Looking to Twins

James Lyons used to think his life would be short. Mr. Lyons, a retired executive with the Boy Scouts of America, thought of his father, who died at 55. “He had one heart attack. It was six hours from onset to death, and that was it.”

Then there were his first cousins on his father’s side. One died at 57 and another at 50. “He was in a barber chair and had a heart attack,” Mr. Lyons said of the 50-year-old. “He died on the spot.”

“He was a big strapping guy, 6-4, healthy and energetic. Then, boom. One day he was there, and the next day he was gone.”

“I approached my 50’s with trepidation,” said Mr. Lyons, who lives in Lansing, Mich.

But his 50’s came and went, and now he is 75. He is still healthy, and he has lived longer than most of his ancestors. He is baffled as to why.

It seems like common sense. Family members tend to look alike. And many characteristics are strongly inherited — height, weight, a tendency to develop early onset heart disease or to get diabetes. Even personalities run in families. Life span would seem to fit with the rest.

But scientists have been trying for decades to find out if there really is a strong genetic link to life spans and, if so, to what extent.

They turned to studies of families and of parents and children, but data analysis has been difficult and any definitive answer elusive. If a family’s members tend to live to ripe old ages, is that because they share some genes or because they share an environment?

“Is it good socioeconomic status, good health or good genes?” Dr. Christensen asked. “How can you disentangle it?”

His solution, a classic one in science, was to study twins. The idea was to compare identical twins, who share all their genes, with fraternal twins, who share some of them. To do this, Dr. Christensen and his colleagues took advantage of detailed registries that included all the twins in Denmark, Finland and Switzerland born from 1870 to 1910. That study followed the twins until 2004 to 2005, when nearly all had died.

Now, Dr. Christensen and his colleagues have analyzed the data. They restricted themselves to twins of the same sex, which obviated the problem that women tend to live longer than men. That left them with 10,251 pairs of same-sex twins, identical or fraternal. And that was enough for meaningful analyses even at the highest ages. “We were able to disentangle the genetic component,” Dr. Christensen said.

But the genetic influence was much smaller than most people, even most scientists, had assumed. The researchers reported their findings in a recent paper published in Human Genetics. Identical twins were slightly closer in age when they died than were fraternal twins.

But, Dr. Christensen said, even with identical twins, “the vast majority die years apart.”

The investigators also asked when the genetic factor kicked in. One hypothesis, favored by Dr. Christensen, was that the strongest genetic effect was on deaths early in life. He thought that deaths at young ages would reflect things like inherited predispositions to premature heart disease or to fatal cancers.

But there was almost no genetic influence on age of death before 60, suggesting that early death has a large random component — an auto accident, a fall. In fact, the studies of twins found almost no genetic influence on age of death even at older ages, except among people who live to be very old, the late 80’s, the 90’s or even 100. The average age at which people are dying today in the United States is 68.5 for men, and 76.1 for women, according to Arialdi M. Minio of the National Center for Health Statistics. This statistic differs from life expectancy, which estimates how long people born today are expected to live.

Finding Randomness

Even though there may be a tendency in some rare families to live extraordinarily long, the genetic influence that emerged from the studies of twins was significantly less than much of the public and many scientists think it is.

A woman whose sister lived to be 100 has a 4 percent chance of living that long, Dr. Christensen says. That is better than the 1 percent chance for women in general, but still not very great because the absolute numbers, 1 out of 100 or 4 out of 100, are still so small. For men, the odds are much lower. A man whose sister lived to be 100 has just a 0.4 percent chance of living that long. In comparison, men in general have a 0.1 percent chance of reaching 100.

Those data fit well with animal studies, says Caleb Finch, a researcher on aging at the University of Southern California. Genetically identical animals — from worms to flies to mice — living in the same environments die at different times.

The reason is not known, Dr. Finch said.

“It’s random,” he said. “Since we can’t find any regular pattern, that’s the hand wave explanation — randomness.”

And random can mean more than one thing.

“There are two phases of randomness,” Dr. Finch said. “There’s the randomness of life experiences. The unlucky ones, who get an infection, get hit on the head or get mutations that turn a cell into cancer. And there are random events in development.”

Random cell growth and division and random differences in which genes get turned on and how active they are during development can cause identical twins to have different numbers of cells in their kidneys and even different patterns of folds in their brains, Dr. Finch pointed out. And random differences in development early in life can set the stage for deterioration decades later.

But seemingly random events can still come as a shock. That’s how Annmarie Bald felt when her identical twin, Catherine Polk, died in her sleep of a heart attack. It happened seven years ago, when Ms. Polk was 43. To this day, Ms. Bald, of Forked River, N.J., lives in fear that the same thing will happen to her. She nervously sees her doctor every year for a checkup, and every year her doctor tells her the same thing: her heart is fine.

“The question in my mind every day is, ‘How did I end up still here and she’s gone?’ ” Ms. Bald said. “It’s not something you ever get over.”

Yet even diseases commonly thought to be strongly inherited, like many cancers, are not, researchers found. In a paper in The New England Journal of Medicine in 2000, Dr. Paul Lichtenstein of the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm and his colleagues analyzed cancer rates in 44,788 pairs of Nordic twins. They found that only a few cancers — breast, prostate and colorectal — had a noticeable genetic component. And it was not much. If one identical twin got one of those cancers, the chance that the other twin would get it was generally less than 15 percent, about five times the risk for the average person but not a very big risk over all.

Looked at one way, the data say that genes can determine cancer risk. But viewed another way, the data say that the risk for an identical twin of a cancer patient is not even close to 100 percent, as it would be if genes completely determined who would get the disease.

Dr. Robert Hoover of the National Cancer Institute wrote in an accompanying editorial: “There is a low absolute probability that a cancer will develop in a person whose identical twin — a person with an identical genome and many similar exposures — has the same type of cancer. This should also be instructive to some scientists and others interested in individual risk assessment who believe that with enough information, it will be possible to predict accurately who will contract a disease and who will not.”

Alzheimer’s disease also has a genetic component, but genes are far from the only factor in determining who gets the disease, said Margaret Gatz of the University of Southern California and Nancy Pedersen of the Karolinska Institute.

Dr. Gatz and Dr. Pedersen analyzed data from a study of identical and fraternal Swedish twins 65 and older. If one of a pair of identical twins developed Alzheimer’s disease, the other had a 60 percent chance of getting it. If one of a pair of fraternal twins, who are related like other brothers and sisters, got Alzheimer’s, the other had a 30 percent chance of getting it.

But, Dr. Pedersen noted, Alzheimer’s is so common in the elderly that it occurs in 35 percent of people age 80 and older. If genes determine who gets Alzheimer’s at older ages, Dr. Pedersen says, “those genes must be very common, have small effects and probably interact with the environment.”

As for other chronic diseases of the elderly, Parkinson’s has no detectable heritable component, studies repeatedly find. Heart disease appears to be indiscriminate, striking almost everyone eventually, says Dr. Anne Newman of the University of Pittsburgh, who has studied it systematically in a large group of elderly people.

But the general picture is consistent in study after study. A strong family history of even a genetically linked disease does not guarantee a person will get it, and having no family history does not mean a person is protected. Instead, chronic diseases strike almost at random among the elderly, making it perhaps not so surprising that life spans themselves have such a weak genetic link.

Matt McGue, a psychology professor at the University of Minnesota who studies twins, contrasts life spans with personality, which, he says, is about 50 percent heritable, or attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, which is 70 to 80 percent heritable, or body weight, which is 70 percent heritable.

“I’ve been in this business for a long while, and life span is probably one of the most weakly heritable traits I’ve ever studied,” Dr. McGue said.

Seeking Rare Families

At the National Institute on Aging, the question still hovers: Is it possible to find genetic determinants of exceptional health and longevity?

“If you could identify factors for exceptionally good health, that might allow people to avoid disease,” said Evan Hadley, director of the institute’s geriatrics and clinical gerontology program.

There are two methods to do this, Dr. Hadley said. One is to look at how the genes of centenarians differ from those of the rest of the population. But, he said, that requires that if longevity genes exist, they are common among centenarians. And, so far, such studies have not yielded much that has held up — with one well accepted exception: a gene for a cholesterol-carrying protein that affects risk for heart disease as well as Alzheimer’s disease. Those who have that gene have double the chances of living to 100. But that chance is not much anyway. Only about 2 percent of people born in 1910 could expect to reach 100. The second approach is to look for rare genes in unusually long-lived families. “If there is something in a family, it may be in only one or a few families,” Dr. Hadley said. But it may have a big effect.

So the National Institute on Aging is starting a research project with investigators at three United States medical centers and at Dr. Christensen’s center in Denmark. The plan is to find exceptional families, those in which there is a cluster of very old, closely related members — two sisters in their 90’s, for example — whose children, who would typically be in their 70’s, and grandchildren, can be studied too.

Today, many families have a few members living to advanced ages, but very few families have many of them. And in large families, just by chance, someone may live past 90, but it is unlikely that most of the brothers and sisters will get there. For these families, there does not appear to be a genetic component to life spans.

For now, the study is in a pilot phase, testing a scoring system to define the families who seem to fit the criteria.

“If you are really, really old in a family, that gets you more points,” Dr. Hadley said. “You get more points for being 97 than for being 92. But we also are looking at the whole family structure. If there are just two siblings in a family and both live to 98, that’s very exceptional. But suppose there are eight kids and they all made it to 87. That’s pretty unusual, too.’’

If the researchers find genes in the oldest family members that seem to be associated with protection from a disease like heart disease and with a long life, they will follow the younger members of the family, children in their 60’s and 70’s, asking if the same genes seem to protect them as they age.

Some wonder if the project can succeed, said Dr. Newman, who is directing one study center, at the University of Pittsburgh. “The big debate is, is it possible for there to be a few genes that are protective or is it going to be so complicated that we won’t be able to figure out the genetic factors? Is it going to be that some people are just lucky?”

She is optimistic, reasoning that since some families tend to have early onset of certain diseases, others probably have a genetic predisposition to get diseases like heart disease, cancer and Alzheimer’s so late that most members do not get them at all and live very long and healthy lives.

“This would be the flip side of early onset,” she says.

Mrs. Tesauro is in the pilot study. She had always been healthy and active, a self-described tomboy growing up who played tennis until she was 85. “I just can’t sit still,” she said.

She was a woman who knew her mind, so eager to go to college that she defied her father, who thought it was a waste of money, and worked her way through. She ended up with a master’s degree in education and a career as a high school teacher.

Her twin was different. She was the frilly type, Mrs. Tesauro said, and was not much of a student. She failed a grade in high school and barely graduated. Both Mrs. Tesauro and her sister married and had children.

Mrs. Tesauro was born first, and it is a common belief even among scientists that the twin born first is stronger and lives longer. But when he looked at the Scandinavian data, Dr. Christensen said, he found that birth order made no difference in health or longevity.

The day before visiting Mrs. Tesauro for the first time, the Pittsburgh investigators tried to call her, just to be sure she was still alive and still healthy enough to be interviewed. When they could not reach her, they began to worry.

But all was well. Mrs. Tesauro answered the phone the next morning and explained why they had had such trouble. She was out running errands.

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Tuesday, August 29, 2006

Jay Young - Remembrance

At the left: A circa 1979 photo of Silas Joseph "Jay" Young. October 1, 1949 - August 23, 2006

Here is the official obit , written (obviously with great affection) by a Baton Rouge Morning Advocate writer.

My personal feelings follow this official obit.

Former WBRZ-TV anchor Jay Young dies

By GARY PERILLOUX
Advocate business writer
Published: Aug 24, 2006


Jay Young, a leading man on Baton Rouge’s TV scene in the 1980s, died in his sleep Wednesday after a lengthy bout with debilitating back problems.

He was 56.

Young bolted from Baton Rouge to become an anchor on Ted Turner’s rising cable network, CNN Headline News, for a short tenure in the late 1980s before health problems curtailed his broadcasting career.

He made a lasting impression as a weekend anchor and reporter on WBRZ-TV news broadcasts earlier in the decade.

Bob Kennon, a WBRZ assignment editor, recalled Young’s arrival in the local market in the late 1970s and Young’s work as a weekend anchor for Channel 2 and, briefly, its rival, WAFB-TV.

“He was an excellent field reporter,” said Kennon, “and he was an extremely handsome man.”

Young’s telegenic qualities paid dividends when he anchored weekend broadcasts for WBRZ from 1983 to 1986. “Those were the glory days,” said former WBRZ anchor John Mahaffey, who retired in 1999.

“We were probably peaking at our strongest audience point, and at that time we sort of owned the market.”

Cable’s incursion into broadcast network viewing hadn’t blossomed yet, and the station commanded dominant Nielsen ratings.

“Jay and John and all of us were part of the top-rated ABC affiliate newscast (for market share) in the nation, which was pretty impressive,” said Mike Rhodes, a former WBRZ sports anchor.

“It was a good group. (Jay) was definitely a part of some very positive happenings at Channel 2.”

Added Mahaffey, “I’ll tell you one thing that helped us is he was a good-looking guy. And he was just a good broadcaster.”

Some of Young’s talent, which he later would tap in a fiction-writing career in the 1990s, stemmed from his ability to write for the audience.

“He was just a really talented anchorperson, a good writer,” Rhodes said. “And I think one of the things that was so neat about Jay is he had such a great on-air personality back then.

“We used to call it ‘happy talk.’ He was just a good ad-libber.”

In a 1997 interview with The Advocate, Young chronicled a series of back ailments that made work increasingly difficult for him.

Physicians later believed he had a nerve tumor in his spinal cord, but in 1983 he underwent surgery in Houston to shave bone off his vertebrae to relieve pressure on his spine.

Later nerve damage limited his mobility, leading him to spend a month in a pain clinic and to try acupuncture and swimming therapy.
After he left a therapy session in 1987, a sedan collided with his sports car, leaving Young with a fractured neck and a serious blood clot.

He briefly returned to the air but was finished in broadcasting at 37.

Young then turned to his pen at the urging of his wife, Wyonna, and wrote three novels in the 1990s, each of them with autobiographical underpinnings.

The first pair — “Where Heathens Pray” and “Smuggler’s Forecast” — chronicled the experiences of fictional broadcast reporter Ross Chauvin.

The third, “The Flights of Fantsy,” followed the adventures of Rex “Fantsy” Morrell, a 14-year-old who overcomes asthma to achieve excellence as an archer, one of Young’s avocations. In his writing, Young’s poodle Muffin kept him company as he lay back in a recliner and propped a laptop computer on a pillow to overcome his back woes.

In addition to his wife, Young is survived by two sons, Brian and Rex.

Funeral arrangements are being handled by Resthaven Funeral Home of Baton Rouge. After a private ceremony Thursday, a memorial service will be conducted at 11 a.m. Saturday at First United Methodist Church in Eunice.

Story originally published in The Baton Rouge Morning Advocate. August 24, 2006.


Here's what I wrote for the Opelousas Daily World and the Lafayette Daily Advertiser (published Wednesday August 30, 2006)

Former Daily World Writer Jay Young Remembered
by Joseph Chaillot


Jay Young is dead at 56.

Our world, The Daily World, and KATC TV3 are all a little poorer because of Jay's death a week ago exactly (August 23) in Baton Rouge, where he has lived since 1977.

He died - according to the East Baton Rouge Coroner's office - from complications resulting from a 20-year bout with a number of severe spinal cord injuries (back and neck) and, at the end, diabetes and then a heart attack claimed him.

But oh, what a life he lead for those first 37 years.

Those who knew Jay will never forget him. He was whip smart with a quick and subtle mind, humorous, sarcastic in a funny way, matinee-idol handsome, a body builder, a guitar player, an archer, a bird and in fact all animals lover, a novelist, and, more than anything else - a first-rate newsman.

In fact, Jay was a native of Eunice, Louisiana, and grew up there as a contemporary of other future "Highway 13" newsmen (and ALL friends) Vernon Roger, Charles "Inky" Bush, Charles Manuel, Tom Voinche, John Voinche (all from the Eunice area) and me, from neighboring Crowley.

Jay Young's first job in journalism - after graduating from LSU's Journalism School - was with the Opelousas Daily World in the early-to-mid 1970s, and he often waxed poetic about it.

When he and I were both TV news anchors at KATC TV 3 in Lafayette in 1975-76, and a big story broke about the killing of an escaped circus lion in Opelousas City Park, he said:

"This is the kind of story where you want to be working for the Daily World. TV just can't get into the real guts of this story - every nut and bolt - like that local newspaper can. We can only give this story one minute on TV !"

Being an animal lover, Jay also registered his displeasure that evening on the TV3 news cast as he revealed that a St. Landry law enforcement officer felt it was necessary to kill that lion even though it had just been fed (right before it escaped) and was bothering no one (though the barks of the local dogs would have made you think differently).

Often, Jay would be approached in public by children who recognized him. The kids would sometimes ask him why his first name was only one letter ("J" is how they heard it).

"My parents were so poor," he would wink at the parents here, "that they could only afford one letter." Some children were shaken by this, and he would have to comfort them later.

True, Jay had his "canaille" or "rascal" side, and those of us who grew to know and love him and his wife of 40 years, Wyonna, knew she put up with a lot from him, but Jay always knew the truth about her patience:

"She holds such power over me, because of how much I love her, that if she ever found out (about her own power over him), all of my shenanigans would stop forthwith," he would quip sheepishly.

Wyonna admitted after Jay's death this week that her natural shyness throughout most of those 40 years of marriage kept her from either discovering OR exercising that power, and she openly wondered how different things might have been for Jay had she been more aware of it.

"Who knows? He sure lived his life and had fun," she mused.
" But i DO know that he loved me deeply and that he certainly suffered a lot for these past 20 years because of his back and neck injuries, and I know that what got to him the most was the mind-numbing boredom of not being in the middle of where the action was."

Not to worry, Wyonna. He is definitely in the middle of the action in heaven right now. Probably investigating St. Michael for Angel brutality when he roughed up Lucifer and threw him out.

And he'd be doing it with good humor and a wink.

editor's note: Joseph Chaillot worked with Jay Young during the Edwin Edwards gubernatorial campaign of 1971, at TV3 in Lafayette, and at WAFB Channel 9 in Baton Rouge. He resides in Lafayette as a storyteller and LSU Master Gardener.

Here's the tribute I placed online at www.2theadvocate.com :



Dear Wyonna, Brian, and Rex.

For one of the few times in my life, I am almost speechless. I have lived out of the state for 15 of the last 16 years, and hearing the news of Jay's Aug 23rd death floored me today - i am still in shock.

From our very first meeting in the summer of 1971, Jay Young and I were fast friends. I was working for then Congressman Edwin Edwards as a statewide coordinator of colleges and volunteers, as EWE was running for Governor.

Jay was added to our Crowley office staff through a recommendation from Edwin's brother Nolan Edwards, who had known of Jay because of testimony Jay had given in a trial in which Nolan was involved.

Jay's articulate responses to would-be withering questions from the other attorney impressed Nolan, and Jay was hired to work in Edwin's Crowley headquarters with Anne Davenport and Charlotte Wilmer, both brought down from Edwin's Congressional office in Washington.

During the fall of 1971, Jay returned to journalism school at LSU but still worked with me on selected weekends on EWE's successful campaign for governor.

We had many grand adventures during that fall.

During one adventure driving Edwin's campaign bus, Jay and I had a secret signal to do a particular thing - and the code word to begin doing this thing was your name, Y, because it was so unusual - and no one guessed it.

I recall spending many nights on you and Jay's couch, and soon grew to love you and your sons over the years.

Four years later, in the late summer of 1975, Jay saw to it that I was hired as a TV anchor on weekends at KATC TV3 in Lafayette.

Two years later, he again saw to it that I was hired as the Capitol Correspondent in Baton Rouge for WAFB TV Channel 9.

I shall always be grateful to him for that.

He let me live with you and Brian and Rex for a few weeks until I could find an apartment of my own.

All throughout my 16 months with Channel 9, Jay and I stayed close friends as well as professional teammates. We especially loved working on a story together - to get the lead just right, to get the angle of the story just right, etc.

And we socialized often together, too. We always had plenty of fun, and I enjoyed his intelligence and easy-going nature.

He kept asking me to read little portions of a book he said he was going to write one day (Where Heathens Pray)- so we would often talk about stories we'd heard growing up so he could included some in his book.

He did in fact include at least one I recall - the one about the wildcat in a suitcase.

He kept reminding me that TV news was all about the show - and he often proclaimed that he missed the nuts and bolts of print journalism, and how a really good story begged for more exposition than the 90 seconds it was given on the nightly newscast.

Jay was many things to many people - but to me he will always be fondly recalled as a mentor, a teammate, a buddy, a pal.

I will miss his intelligence, his smile, his good humor, his booming voice and his mostly gregarious, positive personality.

Right now I can still see him either smiling as he would read a story I had turned in and that he loved the lead for (he had to read the lead-in as anchor), or frowning and asking me to re-write the lead so it would be better.

I loved it either way. Working with him was a joy.

Same with the two sides to his life and personality some saw: one upbeat, positive and forward-looking, the other suspicious, skeptical, and at times pessimistic - he ALWAYS had an opinion, either way.

And I loved him, either way.###

-




A glass half full is emptied

Editorial Observer

What Is the Latest Thing to Be Discouraged About? The Rise of Pessimism

Published: August 28, 2006

The early stages of the Iraq war may have been a watershed in American optimism. The happy talk was so extreme it is now difficult to believe it was sincere: “we will be greeted as liberators”; “mission accomplished”; the insurgency is “in the last throes.” Most wildly optimistic of all was the goal: a military action transforming the Middle East into pro-American democracies.

The gap between predictions and reality has left Americans deeply discouraged. So has much of what has happened, or not happened, at the same time. Those who believed New Orleans would rebound quickly after Hurricane Katrina have seen their hopes dashed. Those counting on solutions to health care, energy dependence or global warming have seen no progress. It is no wonder the nation is in a gloomy mood; 71 percent of respondents in a recent Associated Press-Ipsos poll said the country is on the wrong track.

These are ideal times for the release of “Pessimism: Philosophy, Ethic, Spirit,” by Joshua Foa Dienstag, a U.C.L.A. political theorist. Mr. Dienstag aims to rescue pessimism from the philosophical sidelines, where it has been shunted by optimists of all ideologies. The book is seductive, because pessimists are generally more engaging and entertaining than optimists, and because, as the author notes, “the world keeps delivering bad news.” It is almost tempting to throw up one’s hands and sign on with Schopenhauer.

Pessimism, however, is the most un-American of philosophies. This nation was built on the values of reason and progress, not to mention the “pursuit of happiness.” Pessimism as philosophy is skeptical of the idea of progress. Pursuing happiness is a fool’s errand. Pessimism is not, as is commonly thought, about being depressed or misanthropic, and it does not hold that humanity is headed for disaster. It simply doubts the most basic liberal principle: that applying human reasoning to the world’s problems will have a positive effect.

The biggest difference between optimists and pessimists, Mr. Dienstag argues, is in how they view time. Optimists see the passing of time as a canvas on which to paint a better world. Pessimists see it as a burden. Time ticks off the physical decline of one’s body toward the inevitability of death, and it separates people from their loved ones. “All the tragedies which we can imagine,” said Simone Weil, the French philosopher who starved herself to death at age 34, “return in the end to the one and only tragedy: the passage of time.”

Optimists see history as the story of civilization’s ascent. Pessimists believe, Mr. Dienstag notes, in the idea that any apparent progress has hidden costs, so that even when the world seems to be improving, “in fact it is getting worse (or, on the whole, no better).” Polio is cured, but AIDS arrives. Airplanes make travel easy, but they can drop bombs or be crashed into office towers. There is no point in seeking happiness. When joy “actually makes its appearance, it as a rule comes uninvited and unannounced,” insisted Schopenhauer, the dour German who was pessimism’s leading figure.

As politicians, pessimists do not believe in undertaking great initiatives to ameliorate unhappiness, since they are skeptical they will work. They are inclined to accept the world’s evil and misery as inevitable. Mr. Dienstag tries to argue that pessimists can be politically engaged, and in modest ways they can be. Camus joined the French Resistance. But pessimism’s overall spirit, as Camus noted, “is not to be cured, but to live with one’s ailments.”

President Clinton was often mocked for his declarations that he still believed “in a place called Hope.” But he understood that instilling hope is a critical part of leadership. Other than a few special interest programs — like cutting taxes on the wealthy and giving various incentives to business — it is hard to think of areas in which the Bush administration has raised the nation’s hopes and met them. This president has, instead, tried to focus the American people on the fear of terrorism, for which there is no cure, only bad choices or something worse.

Part of Mr. Bush’s legacy may well be that he robbed America of its optimism — a force that Franklin Delano Roosevelt and other presidents, like Ronald Reagan, used to rally the country when it was deeply challenged. The next generation of leaders will have to resell discouraged Americans on the very idea of optimism, and convince them again that their goal should not be to live with their ailments, but to cure them.

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Monday, August 28, 2006

Small Talk

This stuff fascinates me. Enjoy.

family: Snapshots of life at home.

The Infant GrammarianThe genius of baby talk.


The Infinite Gift by Charles YangMy 3-year-old son, Simon, sees no point in the to be verb. "This my Superman costume," he says. "Where my Batman boot?" I've always assumed he's just making a small-child's mistake, and if I don't correct him, that's mostly because it's too much bother. According to a new book by the Yale linguist Charles Yang, however, Simon is mirroring the grammar of a different language. Hebrew doesn't bother with is or are. When kids leave out the subject in the sentence "Where going?" they're thinking like a speaker of Chinese, which drops topic words in some contexts.

Like almost everything in linguistics, Yang's idea stems from Noam Chomsky's theory that the human capacity for language is innate. Chomsky identified a "universal grammar," meaning a way language generally works, that humans are born with. Other linguists argue that the distinctions among languages can be described by a few dozen rules, or parameters, that involve binary choices: In English you state the subject; in Chinese you sometimes don't. And so, Yang argues in his new book, The Infinite Gift: How Children Learn and Unlearn the Languages of the World, that the mistakes Simon and his peers make aren't the processing difficulties of an immature brain. They're the trial and error children go through as they discard the structure of other languages in favor of their own. "Only the grammar actually used in the child's linguistic environment will not be contradicted, and only the fittest survives," Yang writes.

The idea is a clever one. But aspects of it have met with skepticism since other linguists started working in this area years ago. Most children have the rudiments of English grammar down by their third birthday, even if they don't use it. And research has shown that they are surprised and put off when adults mimic childlike speech. Ask your 2- or 3-year-old "Want go school?" and he's likely to make a face at you. "Kids seem to know they're speaking funny and differently from adults," says Paul Bloom, a psychologist at Yale who thinks the errors of baby talk are about short attention span and poor articulation, not parameters or grammars.


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Still, Chomsky praised Yang's work and book via e-mail, and Yang's ideas may explain some of the speech patterns of small children. And he reinforces a point that there's other support for: Children carry the tools of speech with them and can sort out the finer points of language with less intervention than many parents think. To be sure, not every speech delay or error falls within the spectrum of normal development. But for most kids, the mistakes they make at age 2 will be gone by age 4. Whether they're on the early or late side of that window is probably meaningless.

Consider this example of handicapping a child's speech development: In her book The Nurture Assumption, Judith Rich Harris tells the story of a 1933 experiment that a psychology professor and his wife conducted on their child. The couple wanted to see if a chimpanzee baby reared with a human one would act like the human. So they brought a 7-month-old chimp, Gua, to live with their son, Donald, when he was 10 months old. Gua didn't much copy Donald. But Donald started barking for food like Gua. At 19 months, most American children can say more than 50 words and are beginning to form phrases. At 19 months, Donald could speak only three words. At that point, Gua went back to the zoo. And Donald went on to learn to talk—well enough to earn admission to Harvard Medical School.

Harris also points out that the hearing children of deaf couples learn to speak fluently. And immigrant children learn the language of the country they live in and speak without an accent, even if their parents speak to them at home only in their own native tongue. "Parents do not have to teach their children the language of their community; in fact—hard as it may be for you to accept this—they do not have to teach their children any language at all," Harris writes. Kids need to hear speech to learn it, but they don't necessarily need to hear it at home. And they don't need their parents to correct them. The effort we put into teaching our own children to talk—speaking clearly and in short sentences, praising their early words, monitoring their grammar—are, as Harris puts it, "a peculiarity of our culture." Linguist Steven Pinker has studied societies in which parents rarely talk to their infants and toddlers other than to scold or make a demand. Their 2-year-olds are behind on language compared to Western kids, but by age 4 they catch up.

So, what about the questions your child's pediatrician asks each year: At 2, how many words does he know? At 3, how complex are his sentences? It's going too far to dismiss all of this out of hand. My children's former pediatrician wonders about the empirical support for the age-based markers of speech development, but he figures that it's a good thing to encourage parents to engage their children and stimulate their developing neurons. There are other benefits to early speech: Simon is hugely strong-willed, so it was an enormous relief when he could express his wishes verbally. I may not always like what he has to say, but I prefer the words to incoherent wails of frustration.

Some parents address this problem creatively. Before their children can talk, they teach them to sign words like milk and more. I admire them. But I'd never be organized enough to join in. And while I'm all for neurons firing away (who isn't?), the intense focus on young talkers often seems to me overblown. "She has so many words!" we coo about precocious toddlers—code for "she's smart" or "you're smart too, since you're her mother." Then there's all the comparing of notes about how much or how well our children speak compared to other children. But if early speech is more like a party trick than a measure of intelligence or aptitude, then the cooing and the comparisons generate more anxiety than light.

I like Yang's book for making me listen differently to Simon's odd sentence constructions and for its laid-back message. "You will see that children are infinitely better at learning languages than we are," he promises in the first chapter. "And you will see that the 'errors' in their speech are inevitable and will go away in due time." I don't have to feel like a slacker for overlooking Simon's faulty English grammar. Instead I can marvel that he was born knowing how to learn Chinese. Lucky baby, to have a human mind.

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Sunday, August 27, 2006

Learning Curve

This piece of research is astounding - and AFFIRMS those who have always believed that all-boys and all-girls schools are a great idea. Enjoy.

Study: Teacher's Gender Affects Learning

Published: August 27, 2006

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WASHINGTON (AP) -- For all the differences between the sexes, here's one that might stir up debate in the teacher's lounge: Boys learn more from men and girls learn more from women.

That's the upshot of a provocative study by Thomas Dee, an associate professor of economics at Swarthmore College and visiting scholar at Stanford University. His study was to appear Monday in Education Next, a quarterly journal published by the Hoover Institution.

Vetted and approved by peer reviewers, Dee's research faces a fight for acceptance. Some leading education advocates dispute his conclusions and the way in which he reached them.

But Dee says his research supports his point, that gender matters when it comes to learning. Specifically, as he describes it, having a teacher of the opposite sex hurts a student's academic progress.

''We should be thinking more carefully about why,'' he said.

Dee warns against drawing fast conclusions based on his work. He is not endorsing single-sex education, or any other policy.

Rather, he hopes his work will spur more research into gender's effect and what to do about it.

His study comes as the proportion of male teachers is at its lowest level in 40 years. Roughly 80 percent of teachers in U.S. public schools are women.

Dee's study is based on a nationally representative survey of nearly 25,000 eighth-graders that was conducted by the Education Department in 1988. Though dated, the survey is the most comprehensive look at students in middle school, when gender gaps emerge, Dee said.

He examined test scores as well as self-reported perceptions by teachers and students.

Dee found that having a female teacher instead of a male teacher raised the achievement of girls and lowered that of boys in science, social studies and English.

Looked at the other way, when a man led the class, boys did better and girls did worse.

The study found switching up teachers actually could narrow achievement gaps between boys and girls, but one gender would gain at the expense of the other.

Dee also contends that gender influences attitudes.

For example, with a female teacher, boys were more likely to be seen as disruptive. Girls were less likely to be considered inattentive or disorderly.

In a class taught by a man, girls were more likely to say the subject was not useful for their future. They were less likely to look forward to the class or to ask questions.

Dee said he isolated a teacher's gender as an influence by accounting for several other factors that could affect student performance. But his study is sure to be scrutinized.

''The data, as he presents them, are far from convincing,'' said Marcia Greenberger, co-president of the National Women's Law Center, which works to advance the progress of women.

Greenberger said she found Dee's conclusions to be questionable and inconsistent. More broadly, she said, boys and girls benefit by having male and female teachers as role models.

''I don't think there are many parents or students, looking back over their educational careers, who haven't been inspired by a teacher of the opposite sex,'' she said.

''And many have had very unhappy experiences with teachers of the same gender that they are. We have to be careful of too many generalizations,'' Greenberger said.

Student success cannot be narrowed to the gender of the teacher, said Reg Weaver, president of the National Education Association, the country's largest teachers' union.

Experienced teachers, good textbooks, smaller class sizes and modern equipment all influence how boys and girls do in class, Weaver said.

''Students benefit by having exposure to teachers who look like them, who can identify with their culture ... but this is just one variable among many,'' Weaver said.

Dee said his research raises valid questions.

Should teachers get more training about the learning styles of boys and girls? Should they be taught to combat biases in what they expect of boys and girls?

In the nature-nurture debate, he said, teacher gender belongs.

''Some people will react strongly to this,'' he said. ''But I've taken pains to explain that we need to be cautious about drawing policy conclusions. As provocative as this all might seem, I really haven't gotten that much negative feedback.''

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On The Net:

National Women's Law Center: http://www.nwlc.org

National Education Association: http://www.nea.org

Saturday, August 26, 2006

When a Movie Comes to Town

Some of my more interesting days have been spent on a movie set; I was a bit player in a few and an extra in others during the 1970s in southern Louisiana. (Return to Boggy Creek with Dawn ____ (Mary Ann from Gilligan's Island), Casey's Shadow with Walter Matthau, The Drowning Pool with Paul Newman) . Here's what it was like in deep west Texas recently. I love Marfa. Enjoy.

Hollywood Stampedes a Texas Town, and Tranquillity Rides Into the Sunset

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Josh Brolin plays an antelope hunter in “No Country for Old Men,” a modern-day western from the Coen brothers.

Published: August 27, 2006

MARFA, Tex.

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A scene from “There Will Be Blood,” Paul Thomas Anderson’s adaptation of Upton Sinclair’s novel “Oil!”

Alberto Halpern

Chairs on the set of the Coen brothers’ “No Country for Old Men” indicate the stars visible in Marfa, Tex.

UNTIL six months ago W. E. Love, also known as Chip, had not particularly intended to carry on his family’s cinematic legacy. Then Joel and Ethan Coen came to town.

Like many people raised in this isolated West Texas town near the Mexican border, Mr. Love, 49, grew up with a small connection to Hollywood: his grandmother was an extra in the 1956 film “Giant.” That Texas epic, touted at the time as the most expensive movie ever made, irrevocably changed Marfa, a drought-plagued ranching town that had long seen better days. The film’s stars — Rock Hudson, Elizabeth Taylor and James Dean — drew crowds at the Hotel Paisano on Marfa’s main street, and the movie employed hundreds of locals as extras.

Operating on a somewhat less grand scale, the Coens — the writing and directing team behind “Fargo,” “The Big Lebowski” and “O Brother, Where Art Thou?” — visited Marfa last March, as they searched for ranch land on which to film their latest project, an adaptation of Cormac McCarthy’s 2005 novel “No Country for Old Men.” Set in the late 1970’s in West Texas, the story is an ultraviolent neo-western about an antelope hunter, Llewelyn Moss (played by Josh Brolin), who stumbles across $2 million in a drug deal gone awry. Moss takes off with the money, prompting a chase up and down the Mexican border, as a psychopathic hit man (Javier Bardem) follows him, leaving a slew of bodies in his wake. On their trails is the aging local sheriff (Tommy Lee Jones).

The president of Marfa’s only bank, Mr. Love also owns a cattle ranch and gave the Coens a tour of his property when they scouted locations last spring. As the filmmakers and Mr. Love sat on his back porch talking, Joel Coen asked if Mr. Love would be interested in playing a small role in the movie.

“He said, ‘It’s pretty easy — it’ll just take a couple of days,’ ” Mr. Love recalled recently. “ ‘But there’s two bad things: You have to fall down, and you get killed.’ ” (The part Mr. Coen envisioned for Mr. Love was one of the hit man’s victims, who comes to a grotesquely bloody end.) Mr. Love warned the Coens that he wasn’t an actor: the only time he’d performed was in a high school production of “The Wizard of Oz.” “They said, ‘Perfect!’ ” he recalled. “I’m kind of bashful, but I thought it’d be a real goof.”

So on the afternoon of May 24, Mr. Love stood on a desolate desert highway west of town, surrounded by cattle ranches peppered with cactuses and jackrabbits, and, in front of a collection of cameras and crew, was shot in the head with a cattle stun gun by Mr. Bardem. Dying on camera was harder than he expected, he said, and he was disheartened by the number of takes the directors called for. “I wanted to do well for those guys because they were so nice,” he said. “I felt a huge responsibility not to stink.”

By now Marfans have come to take a certain amount of celebrity presence for granted, thanks to their town’s reputation as an international art destination. Marfa is home to both the Chinati Foundation, a sprawling outdoor art space founded in 1979 by the minimalist artist Donald Judd, and the Lannan Foundation’s writers residency program.

But it is still three hours away from a commercial airport or a shopping mall and has just 2,400 residents, making the arrival this year of not one, but two Hollywood productions something of an event. Even as the Coens were shooting in Marfa, another well-known writer-director, Paul Thomas Anderson (“Magnolia,” “Punch-Drunk Love”), was preparing to shoot his first movie in four years on a 500-acre set south of town. That film, “There Will Be Blood,” based on Upton Sinclair’s 1927 novel “Oil!,” is a turn-of-the-century epic starring Daniel Day-Lewis as a power-mad oil prospector whose greed menaces a small farming village.

The producers of both films said the presence of two major projects, bankrolled by the same studio, Paramount Vantage (with Miramax), and filmed in the same tiny town, was just a coincidence.

“In a lot of ways movies are run as separate companies,” said Robert Graf, the producer of “No Country for Old Men.” That both movies would be in Marfa simultaneously, he said, “was one of those things that people just sort of found out. It dawned on us slowly.”

While Mr. McCarthy’s novel travels through a number of towns up and down the Texas-Mexico border, Mr. Anderson’s film is actually set in Bakersfield, Calif. “Paul started searching for the location a couple of years ago,” said JoAnne Sellar, producer of “There Will Be Blood.” “He looked extensively in California, but none of the ranches had 360-degree views, where you didn’t feel like a freeway or a Burger King was around the corner. Paul came to Marfa and completely fell in love with it. He couldn’t shake it from his head.” (Like the Coens, Mr. Anderson declined to be interviewed for this article.)

While the landscape was the main draw for both productions, the town of Marfa was a factor too. An eccentric, fiercely independent place that’s become a haven for artists and art tourists, Marfa has seen an upsurge in galleries, boutique hotels and print coverage in the last 10 years. The Coens became enamored with Marfa, “as a lot of people are,” Mr. Graf said. “There are a lot of really interesting and fun people in Marfa.”

Apart from a handful of scenes that used locals’ cars as background vehicles, Mr. Love was the only Marfan to appear in the Coens’ film. But Mr. Anderson’s film, which shot for more than two months, employed around 350 locals, whether as one-day extras or permanent assistants. His production rented 32 houses in town and booked 400 hotel rooms, spread out through Marfa and its neighboring towns of Alpine and Fort Davis.

Mr. Anderson also cast local non-actors as principal characters. The primary relationship in “There Will Be Blood” is between Daniel Day-Lewis’s character, Daniel Plainview, and his young son, H. W. After casting calls in both New York and Los Angeles, Ms. Sellar said, Mr. Anderson found the perfect H. W. in Dillon Freasier, a 10-year-old boy from Fort Davis, Tex. “Paul’s always been very much into casting real people,” Ms. Sellar said. “He really wanted a kid who’d grown up around ranches and horses rather than someone coming in and trying to fake that.”

Mr. Anderson also cast locals as the wife and daughters of the farming family that intertwines with Mr. Day-Lewis’s character throughout the film. Christine Olejniczak, 48, a visual artist who moved to Marfa six years ago, was cast as Mother Sunday, the wife and mother. When she first heard the films were coming to Marfa, Ms. Olejniczak said, “it didn’t really register as a big deal to me.”

“Just like, oh, there’s going to be a lot of people in town this summer,” she continued. “It’s funny that it would not only affect my life, but affect it so enormously. It’s like I ran away to the circus, but the circus came to town instead. They taught me a trapeze act, and just when I started to get good at it, they left.”

Though Hollywood returned to Marfa in full force this summer, these aren’t the days of “Giant.” Neither the locals who have lived here for generations, nor the neo-Marfans drawn by the relatively recent art presence — most of whom have moved from urban areas in which they’re used to at least acting as if they don’t recognize a celebrity — seemed particularly swayed by, say, eating lunch next to Joel Coen’s wife, the actress Frances McDormand, or spotting Mr. Anderson’s partner, Maya Rudolph, the former “Saturday Night Live” cast member.

“A lot of people live out here in West Texas because they’re pretty independent in the first place,” said Maiya Keck, a Marfan restaurateur. “Either they’re from here and raised that way, or they’ve moved out here because they liked the space and solitude. They’re not the kind of people who generally want to rubberneck — or even recognize — a celebrity.”

Jason Willaford, an artist who co-owns a gallery with his wife, was instrumental in shepherding the Coens into Marfa. A hunting enthusiast who’s friendly with many of the local ranchers, Mr. Willaford was able to connect the Coens with the land they might want to use.

The ranchers “didn’t get all gaga just because they’re movie people,” Mr. Willaford said. “It was like, ‘Well, I’m going to have to have a meeting with my family.’ It’s not like, ‘Whoa, the movie people are coming here and we’re going to drop everything for them.’ ”

Apart from the movie shoots, Marfa has seen more than its share of fame this summer. In early July the musician David Byrne stayed for a week with a crew of rowdy Texas singer-songwriters, including Terry Allen, Guy Clark, Joe Ely and Robert Earl Keen. But in some ways Marfa’s shrugging attitude baffled the film crews. There are only a handful of restaurants in town, and if you’re hungry past 9 p.m., you have to settle for the local gas stations’ dizzying array of fried food. Both crews asked local restaurants to either open earlier or stay open later, and most declined. “That’s frustrating,” Ms. Sellar acknowledged. “We’ve been working six-day weeks, and on our one day off — Sunday — nothing’s open. Everybody’s been very welcoming, but they’re like, ‘We’re not going to change our ways.’ ”

Even though both crews brought in hundreds of people, many local business owners found their stay to be prohibitive to their businesses, since Marfa’s economy is based on tourism. “The movies filled up all the hotels, and they work late and are fed through their caterer,” said Ms. Keck, the restaurateur. “This is the first week the hotels haven’t been full of movie people, and we’ve been so busy. I’m so glad it’s back to normal. Now we can go to our coffee shop and not have to wait 45 minutes to get our cappuccino.”

Friday, August 25, 2006

Strange CyberBedfellows

Laptop Slides Into Bed in Love Triangle

By KATIE HAFNER
Published: August 24, 2006
LARRY SMITH knows he is treading a fine marital line. Mr. Smith, 37, is the editor of Smith, an online magazine he founded, and he loves to work in bed at all hours — midafternoon, 2 a.m. if insomnia strikes, then again in the morning.
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In the morning Larry Smith edits his online magazine in bed while his wife, Piper Kerman, tries not to lose sleep over it.

“Sitting there in bed half awake with a cup of coffee is extremely pleasant,” he said.
Yet Mr. Smith is all too aware of his wife’s mounting disapproval of his routine and suspects that a laptop-in-bed ban could be imminent.
As electronic devices get smaller, people tote their technology around the house more than ever. And as the number of home wireless networks also grows, laptops — along with Treos, BlackBerries and other messaging devices — are migrating into the bedroom and onto the bed. The marital bed has survived his-and-her book lights and the sushi-laden bed tray. Can it also survive computers that tether their owners to the office or make the bed the workplace itself?
Piper Kerman, Mr. Smith’s wife, tries to be understanding about her husband’s need to work constantly, but her tolerance has limits, especially when she thinks about the significance of their bed, their first joint purchase when they started out as a couple 10 years ago.
“Not to get too squishy about it, but you kind of want the bed to be a sacred space,” she said. “The bed is a restorative place in my mind. It’s not a place to work.”
Relationship experts and those who study technology in people’s lives hold divergent views on the topic.
“The most comfortable spot in the world is in bed, and that’s where people start their day and end their day,” said Ken Anderson, an anthropologist and a senior researcher at Intel Research in Beaverton, Ore.
Mr. Anderson has been studying people’s routines since 2002 in an attempt to understand the role technology plays in their daily lives. In a paper published with three colleagues, he found more technology ending up in the bedroom. One woman Mr. Anderson kept track of for months had trouble sleeping unless her husband was at her side. So he joined her in bed with his laptop as he continued his work.
Mr. Anderson viewed this in a positive light, as the husband’s effort to be considerate of his wife’s needs. “The whole idea of being co-present is very important these days,” he said.
Dr. Enoch Choi, 36, and his wife, Tania, 33, who have been married 10 years, both take laptops to bed to write their blogs. “I suppose I started the trend,’’ said Dr. Choi, a physician in Palo Alto, Calif. “But now my wife is just as much the nighty-night PowerBook key-banger, blogging away for her friends.”
Ms. Choi, a computer interface designer, said she used to be offended by gadgets in the bedroom. “I don’t even have a TV in the room,” she said. But now, “it’s one of those weird modalities of intimacy I’m just going to have to reconcile myself to.’’
She added:“Honestly, if both of us are in there with the computer it’s a good night. But if one of us wants to be left alone, we’re in different places with our technology. If we want to be connected, then we both bring our technology into the bedroom.”
This may be the face of the happy marriage, circa 2006, when according to the Pew Internet & American Life Project, 30 percent of Americans own laptops.
But as some marital experts point out, in relationships under strain a laptop computer in bed can be used to avoid intimacy, not to foster it.
“There are many people who want a partner close, but not too close,” said David Schnarch, the director of the Marriage and Family Health Center, in Evergreen, Colo., and the author of “Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships” (W. W. Norton 1997). “So snuggling up next to them with the computer is for many of us the ideal situation for a feeling of contact but an assurance there won’t be eye-to-eye intimacy.”
Dr. Schnarch continued: “The problem is not computers. Two generations ago people did it with the television. It’s just the latest appliance that galvanizes our attention.”
A study by sociologists at Duke and the
University of Arizona that gained wide attention this summer found that too much computer use can isolate one further from a shrinking circle of confidants.
Lynn Smith-Lovin, a sociologist at Duke and an author of the study, said preliminary results from a survey conducted in 2004 (but not used in the published study) suggest that those who use the Internet for extended periods are less likely than others to mention their spouse as their first confidant.
Most couples experts said the act of taking an electronic device to bed did not by itself threaten a marriage. “It depends on the relationship,” said Marcy Levine, a marriage and family therapist in San Francisco. “If the relationship is a solid one, where the partners are loving and connected, then bringing a laptop to bed is a way of continuing to be with their partner even if they need to do something else.”
When a couple lie in bed together, both focused on the computer, Ms. Levine said, they can be said to be engaging in an intimate act.
Such is the case with Teresa and David Sholes of Bennington, Vt., who have been married for 15 years.
Ms. Sholes, a medical equipment consultant in Bennington, savors the convenience and coziness of her bed, and her laptop is something of a fixture there, not just at bedtime.
“Sometimes in the winter, if I want to rest in the middle of the day, I’ll bring my laptop and my phone and cuddle into bed,” she said.“I can be anywhere and connected to anything. It feels very powerful.”
Ms. Sholes uses her laptop in bed for more than work. She searches for recipes, plans birthday parties for her 5-year-old daughter, balances her checkbook and listens to audio books.
She also lies in bed and exchanges instant messages with her husband, who is elsewhere in the house on his own computer. “We discuss things, you might even say argue,” she said. “The IM will often eliminate a lot of the tone, and we can discuss things a little bit better. “
But the Sholeses also use the computer in bed to watch movies and to look at photographs Ms. Sholes has taken. And they sit together and have instant messaging conversations with friends.
In addition, the laptop has helped their sex life. “There have been a couple of times where we have digital pornography and can play it right there in bed,” Ms. Sholes said. “At this stage in our marriage I feel like we should bring our laptop into bed more often.”
Laptop computers aren’t the only pieces of electronica to work their way into bedrooms.
Candace Falk, who lives in Berkeley, Calif., has grown so accustomed to a constant third presence in her marriage — her husband’s handheld Treo — that its arrival in their bed seemed inevitable.
“The big laptop thing in bed was a more obvious statement of having his mind elsewhere,” Ms. Falk said. “This small object can be fondled under the covers.”
Bitsie, a nickname Ms. Falk borrowed from another couple whose computer is a constant presence, not only lights up. It also vibrates. “The bells and whistles are supposedly there to remind him about everything he has to do, kind of like a vibrating 24/7 secretary,” Ms. Falk said.
She said she did not like having Bitsie in the bedroom. “I find her most annoying in her tininess and under the covers,” she said. “The buzz that goes off in the middle of the night to remind him of something he has to do is positively annoying.
But because Ms. Falk and her husband, who is a hard-working public-interest lawyer, respect each other’s work, they make room for it. “It’s a kind of ménage à trois that I didn’t choose, but there it is, every day and night,” she said.
Mr. Smith, who lives in New York, might soon find his bedtime computer use relegated to business trips. And Ms. Kerman, his wife, clearly wouldn’t mind.
“There is something about that tap-tap-tap that makes me a little crazy,” she said.
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